Hope children will have a bright future, it is parental general character, however, often listen to parents to give out such plainting: "Present child is bad to teach! " actually the child not " I is changed " , in wanting the course that parents is teaching the child only, use a bit...

[stalk of grain only] 　 hopes children will have a bright future, it is parental general character, however, often listen to parents to give out such plainting: "Present child is bad to teach! " actually the child not " I is changed " , want parents to use little to be done so not hard in the course that teachs the child only " strategy and skill " , often can obtain the result that expect is less than.

Communication and communicate --
Have an insight into the window of child heart world

Parental child whether communicate depend on the parent's manner, some parents often cannot get along with equal means and child, teach a lesson at every turn, cause the child to have awe-stricken feeling. In the beginning of chatting with the child, can ask a few with both sides extraneous neutral problem, be like " what wind to blow today? " etc, make the child feels relaxed and be happy to participate in. Avoid by all means asks a few abstraction, question that understands hard, or to the child the likelihood is sensitive and the problem that does not wish to be faced immediately, be like " whether be criticized by the teacher again? " the beginning that these topics can make the child is talking feels insecurity and anxiety, and generate contrary sentiment, affect conversational quality not only so, and the child also won't contact you gladly later, discuss an issue with you. In the talk, return the train of thought that should notice not to restrict the child, for example asks: "Learn with the classmate? " this causes a suggestion extremely easily, make its lose the likelihood of own judgement.

The anxiety that come is shown in the talk to the child, cry wait for intense sentiment to react, adult never consternation, this meeting makes he feels you lack a plan, in the meantime, the child also can be used because of this society " act wildly " will browbeat adult, proper expression is ad cool-headed and not flurried. In the talk, regard the child as as far as possible friend, the talk with the child content but a few wider, the difficulty in caring the child more to grow relatively, like body development, be an upright person, affection.

Actually, the child likes to chat with parents. Be willing the joyance that parents shares him to succeed, more the anguish that wishs to parents understands and be clear about oneself and trouble, they also hope to realize thought feeling of parents and hope through chatting.

Teach by personal example as well as verbal instrution --
The criterion that the child acts

Although some parents are right the heart of filial expectation is earnest, but oneself however " body crooked shadow is inclined " , still put on a stern expression babble ground " lesson " the child. The child learns from inside imitate, their words and deeds is close to parents relatively on certain level, parents is like not strict him requirement, the psychological characteristic that does not press the child teachs the child, always be wide at waiting for oneself, slashing child, be the educational effect that takes less than anticipation.
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